Checking in. 😉 

Hi guys! It’s probably been another week-ish. Sorry! We’ve been busy busy here lately. My beautiful little girl has seem to have grown overnight. Literally. A clothing size, a diaper size, (size 4!), and yesterday, right before my very eyes, she pulled herself up for the first time ever, without any prompting, as if it were the most natural thing. 😀 PROUD MOMMY! And she did it right in front of Grandma as well. Baby Girl will be walking before we know it. Another fun fact? She says her little nicknames now! In fact, she woke up at 2 am the other night, screamed her nickname, and fell right back asleep immediately. I cracked up! She’s such a little character. It’s really setting in now that she’s walking that fine line between baby and toddler. If I get totally real with you, she’s a toddler. But she’s my baby. For the rest of her life, even when she’s a mother herself, when she’s married and moved away, she will be my baby forever. ❤ Best thing I’ve ever done in my entire life is have her, hands down.

Anyways, besides the same ol’ routine of raising G, errands, and work, we’ve been busier than normal here lately with company. My best friend texted me last Thursday, saying the pipes in her house burst and she needed to shower here. Not a prob, girl, come on over. Which somehow ultimately lead to her and her daughter (almost 3) staying here for a few weeks until her house gets fixed. G loves playing with her little girl, and of course I would let them stay. My friend also works insanity hours, think 16 hour shifts(!) so I’ve had both little munchkins the past couple of days. In fact today is the first day that it’s just me and G, and it’s such a wake up call as to how well behaved G is and how well I have it with her! Or maybe it’s just the fact that 2 kids in general by yourself would just be borderline insane. But I thought I was tired most days just with my kid, nope, our days are a cakewalk compared to double trouble over here. Note to self:  Remember this next teething day. 😉 

Well, I’ve got a full day ahead of me, with clearing out the storage in the guest bedroom for our company, putting away the 6 loads of laundry I pumped out at the laundromat yesterday (fingers crossed that I get this washer and dryer on my bday wishlist!) & then work. My birthday is this Saturday, still mid 20s. Not late, not early. I’m going out with the girls for some drinks for the first time in a few months. Looking forward to it! I generally don’t get a “break” from responsibilities and parenting  very often at all so when I do it is well needed and MUCH anticipated. 

The Great Debate about Shots & Our Children..

As the Great Lita Ford would say “Let’s get back to the cave.” In this instance, Let’s get back to the blog! 😀 this is becoming more of an updated-weekly deal, as opposed to a daily thing. I’ve always been a bit peeved by bloggers who promote themselves as a Daily read, when in reality it is not. Anywho, this last week was busy busy. Filled with appointments, a sick baby (who thank the Lord appears much better now!), my dad’s birthday, and getting some bills paid. Remember how I said I parted ways with my job? Well, after a few days of them asking for me back (and also hearing NOTHING back on anything else I applied to.. meh), we worked something out about a schedule change that is geared more towards my kid’s sleeping schedule and me not having to frantically beg my mom or someone else to put her to sleep for me so I can log into work on time. Fingers crossed that this difference makes ALL the difference. 😀 I do appreciate the fact that I still have a job, and that the Company that I work for is willing to work with me on getting the hours that I need on the time that I actually HAVE. If you are looking for work at home employment, I couldn’t recommend the Company that I work for more for anyone who is also just getting their feet wet in the WAHM industry.

Is it just me, or anytime I log into Facebook or Twitter lately it’s a war of the moms?

It seems that EVERY thing is an issue nowdays in the parenting world. In the day and age of the “Attachment Parent” vs. say… the parents who have a Nanny around more than they are around. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, my generation is about very clearly trying to be the best parents we can be. (For the most part.. there’s always a few exceptions to this rule with some people that you hear in the news, but for right now that is neither here nor there..)

 

We’re the co-sleeping, breastfeeding, babywearing, making your own baby food,  parents.

All of those topics are considered hotspots among any parents. Some think it’s great. Some don’t recommend any of these things (?!). I, personally, have dabbled in all of these areas, and by most people’s perspective I would be classified as an “Attachment Parent.”  (But hello, breastfeeding is BEST for your baby, CoSleeping promotes a better bond and you can keep an eye out for SIDS at night while they sleep, you know EXACTLY what is going into your babies’ purees if you are making them up yourself, and baby-wearing. Let’s just say as a single mother,  trying to get ANYTHING done housework-wise while my daughter was in her newborn month stages,  those baby carriers were wonderful! I had three, I believe. They were also excellent for when we’re out and about, ever tried carrying your kid, the diaper bag, your purse, and whatever else you had with at the time? Not ideal. Baby wearing,! ❤  The only thing we didn’t do is the cloth-diapering. I’m all for saving the planet/landfills/environment, but diapers are more convienent, cheaper, and when I have to make trips to the Laundromat, cloth diapers were not even an option..

 

But what happens when the issues that Mommies debate on takes a more serious twist? In this case, Vaccines. EVERYBODY has a stance on this topic. I personally have my one year old up to date on all her required vaccines. If anything in the future is “optional”, we’re opting out.  And even that, these days, is scary. You hear so much feedback on how you should not vaccinate at ALL, then we have *our* own parents, who say that us and them all received everything and we’re still standing to tell the tale.

..Then you go on facebook, and read submissions (re:HORROR STORIES) from people who have had some sort of complications due to receiving a vaccine. Then you read even scarier stories… I stumbled across one awhile ago about a couple who refused to give their newborn any vaccinations when they were born, and the infant was removed from their care! WHAT?! It’s just scary. You don’t know who to listen to, and you just try to go with your gut on what vaccines are necessary, and which aren’t. I know I want to do anything & everything possible to protect my daughter and prevent anything that could happen to her in the future,  but I’m also not comfortable with these new vaccines that just came out in the last 5 or so years. The HPV vaccine is a heavy topic on the forums these days, and all I can do is thank God that my daughter is still so young that we wont have to worry about that particular vaccine until another decade plus.

Every time my daughter has gotten her “general” shots (the ones that all babies get for their first year) she hasn’t felt well for a couple of days after the shot. EVERY TIME. :/ That raises the bar on the sketch factor of this as well. Also at our last appointment a few days ago, our Doctor said he wasn’t going to give my daughter her next set of (required 1 yr shots) that day because she was already running a small fever due to having a cold. So we bypassed shots, for now. But it got me thinking, how he didn’t want to give her the shots because it would aggravate the mild fever she was already running.. That simply doesn’t sound good by any means. And the fact that it makes her sick every time is heartbreaking. But, Mommy had to get shots. Grandma had to get shots. Auntie had to get shots. Even the book that I read to my daughter the morning of her going to the doctors “Courderoy goes to the Doctor” detailed Little Courderoy getting a shot. It’s something that has been going on for everyone in America for, ever. It’s alarming the number of people who now feel otherwise, and frequently post about it. I even had a few people BASHING me when I updated my Facebook status regarding getting my daughter’s newborn shots. But ultimately I feel that our pediatrician is a hell of a lot more educated on medicine and vaccines than I am, and that trusting his judgement is the smarter way to go than trusting the opinions of angry people on the Internet.

 

Do you give your child EVERY vaccination that your doctor recommends? Or only the required? How do you feel about the fact that an overwhelming number of parents feel that we shouldn’t vaccinate our kids at all, ever? Leave your thoughts..

Hello again!

Sorry for the lack of updates. Baby Girl (my big one year old! ❤) has still been feeling under the weather. She actually had a doctor’s appointment today, which ruled out that anything else is wrong besides a lagging cold. (thank God!). We then hit the parking garage after the doctors to leave, and were surprised by a dead battery… when we were in there literally twenty  minutes, maybe.  So we spent about an hour and a half walking the skywalks (well, me, walking, while carrying Baby.) until it was up and running again. I cannot WAIT to go apply for a new vehicle. I’m probably more overdue for one than ANYONE else I know.. and that’s not bragging.

Other than that, I had a dentist appointment yesterday.. Don’t you hate those? But it is nice to get them over with and contribute to the health of your teeth & gums. The day before that was my Munchkin’s birthday, and birthday party! Which went along successfully. Although, she cried when we sang “Happy Birthday!”. She didn’t dig a group of people crowded around her high chair randomly singing. And girlie-pie got some cuteeee clothes! She will be one stylin’ baby this summer. 😀

Let’s recap my work situation, shall we? I’ve been working for a telecommuting company through my home, and I unfortunately have to report that it is no longer. Not that anything is wrong with this company, it just wasn’t a good fit for my family and I right now at this point in my life. When I got hired, I specifically stated that I needed a job that I could do during the day, since I have a baby by myself and I don’t believe in putting children so young in daycare. The company seemed to understand this, but after training they throw at me that “They cannot ever hear my child.” Um, right. She’s one. She’s loud. She’s a child. Of course you’re going to hear her. Which led to me only being able to work at night, after she went to sleep. But with this hellish cold + daylight savings, her 7pm solid bedtime has been pushed up closer to 8 these days. Which cuts an hour off my schedule, which in turn gets me angry e-mails very early in the morning.. So after much debate & consideration, I’ve decided to cut ties and leave that position open for them to hire someone who can contribute a ton of time to the job. Unlike me and my measly few hours a night.

Luckily, I have a fall back plan. One that was just put into fruition probably two days before I decided to end current job.  I will be nannying for a 10 & 7 year old, Tuesday through Friday, beginning April until September. Hello, job where I can still have my daughter 24/7 and make money. I’ve also been furiously applying to other work-at-home gigs, only this time specifying (in the resume, cover letter, application, etc) that I WILL have a one year old with me at all times, and if I can’t work around her then I can’t work for you. Plain and simple.

And, that’s our lives right now. + replaying that Volbeat (something about waiting?) song on repeat. 

What’s better than when you missed your work shift the previous night because your baby would not sleep?  Being woken up for the day at 6 am on a Saturday morning.

Meep mop. :/
Better power up on some white chocolate coffee, as I have a full day of deep cleaning,  party prepping and shopping for tomorrows big birthday for little Miss.

WIAW.

I’ve been wanting to participate in this blog phenomenanon for awhile now, so here we have it,  my first What I Ate Wednesday:

BREAKFAST;

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I just pulled this image off google, but whatever it’s legit. Pizza Lunchables were my favorite while pregnant & I probably still eat one once a month. Usually while putting groceries away.

LUNCH;
I thought I’d take a shot at healthier eating for lunch and made some Roasted Butternut Squash Raviolis.

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The verdict?  Gag.  Squash, while very healthy, isn’t too tasty as anything. Didnt even try to finish this small dish. Fail.

SNACK;
A small tupperware circle of Gardettos and Wheat Thins.

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DINNER;

After the dissapointing lunch, I wanted a dinner that would make up for it. Seasoned Chicken, roasted veggies & potato slices. Mmmm!

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I actually was so into this that I didn’t remember to take a photo until closer to the end of the meal.

Do I think this post will get me a linkup on a Clean Eats blog? Not even close. But,  for me, it’s proof that I’m at least trying to eat better! 😉

What did you eat for WIAW? What did your little ones eat?  Would you be interested in a Munchkin Meals Post on this blog?

When Mom and Baby Get Sick Week.

Oy vey. This past week has been a long, tough one. It started off with baby G getting sick. Just a typical winter bad cold/flu type deal. More of a cold than anything. But it sucked, and needless to say she didn’t take it very well. Think no naps, and up NUMEROUS (6-10x) times per night, after bedtime. Then, around Wednesdayish when she finally starts feeling noticeably better, I start to get sick. Started with a sore throat, which I noticed right away on day one because I work on the phone, so I’m on there nonstop for a few hours a day. Day Two, and I awoke with close to no voice. Spent two days croaking out my work calls. Today, (my one day off for another week) I was truly hoping to spend recovering, as this definitely is the worst of the sick days so far. But, with an active baby that stayed up from 7-4 with no naps until about ten minutes ago, rest of any sort is kind of out the window.

I’ve said this will be an honest blog, and this is an honest recap of what it’s like when a single mother gets sick. And, it SUCKS. You have -0 energy. None. All your daydreams are about going the ##*&$ to sleep. You have virtually no chance of resting, unless it’s at nap times or after your child goes to sleep. And even then, there’s about a 2.5-3 hourish window between her bedtime & mine, and I’m always either spending that time working, doing housework, or tackling whatever else needs doing. Because it’s not like there’s anyone else around to ask to help. :/ And I won’t lie, that is extra annoying. To know I have family members nearby that swore up & down that they’d be around to help if ever needed, yet in about a year of being a single parent I’ve never even had anyone offer up an hour of their time to grab a nap. Even when I’m noticeably ill.

But what do you do? Venting about it on the blog helps a bit, but in reality all you can do is trudge on and know that eventually things will be easier.

 Another thing I’ll rant about? Friends. Or should I say, “Friends.” The truest statement I have ever heard is “Have a baby and see who’s still around after.” Definitely to the point. And sadly, I realized that out of the handful of true friends I thought I had, only one or two were really what anyone could characterize as a friend, these days. In fact, let’s play out a scenario from this weekend. I asked an old bestie to hang out this weekend. She has a little girl, and her daughter just adores mine. So I texted, maybe mid-week, asking to hang. She agreed, and I get a text around 7:30 Saturday night.
Her: “Let’s go to the bar, Man! Let’s do it up. Come on over here.”
Me: No can do pal, Sorry.
Her: WHAT?! WHY NOT!
Me: No babysitter. I’d need a lot more of a heads up than 7pm the night of.
Her: Your mom won’t watch her?
Me: You know my mom… gotta ask at least a week in advance. And anyone else I’d trust enough to watch my baby would probably already be at your house tonight.
Her: Just find someone to watch her.
Me: Unlike you, I don’t just pawn off my child on whoever is willing to accept her on that day. It’s either someone I know and trust, or I’m home with baby. That’s just how it is.
Her: Whatever. You’re the one who said you wanted to hang out. Way to ruin everyones night.
Me: Yes, I said let’s hang out, as in us and our children.
Her: Call me when you can get drunk.

I need some new friends. Preferably some mom friends. Because once you’re a parent, it just feels like anyone else who isn’t a parent as well just doesn’t get it. And even some people that are parents, don’t get it! Like the above mentioned girl in this post. But I can’t get too upset, because this is coming from some broad that only sees her kid maybe an hour or two each day (on a good day!), and the rest of the time her child is with her mom, grandma, friends, anyone who will take her so that her mother can do what she feels like doing. That’s not the type of mother I am, and never will be. My daughter will ALWAYS come first, no matter what type of fun adult night is going on elsewhere.

Hack hack, cough cough. Til Next Time.